Covet

 

Text: Exodus 20:17

 

Introduction:

·        Put in simple terms, this command simply says that we should quit worrying about what our neighbor has. It is his, not ours. We need not be like, better than, or superior to our neighbor. Set our priorities on God, not our neighbor’s possessions. Leave our neighbor’s possessions alone. Leave our neighbor’s mate alone, and be satisfied with what God has given us.

·        This is the one command that deals with the heart and attitudes, not outward actions.

I.       THE REQUIREMENT

Covetousness is an uncontrolled desire to acquire.

A.    Notice four things we are not to covet:

1.      Don't covet your neighbor's house

2.      Don't covet your neighbor's wife

3.      Don't covet your neighbor's manservant or maidservant

4.      Don't covet your neighbor's ox or donkey

B.     This is a very difficult command to obey for two reasons:

1.      Advertising stimulates a desire for more

2.      So much emphasis in this culture is directly attached to possessions

a)      You are successful if ...

b)      You can feel good about yourself if...

II.     REASONS

A.    Coveting destroys contentment

1.      Destination Disease says, "When I get (you fill it in), then I'll be happy."

(Ecc. 5:10) "He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver; nor he that loveth abundance with increase: this is also vanity."

2.      However, things do not satisfy!

B.     Coveting destroys friendships

(1 Ki. 21:4) "And Ahab came into his house heavy and displeased because of the word which Naboth the Jezreelite had spoken to him: for he had said, I will not give thee the inheritance of my fathers. And he laid him down upon his bed, and turned away his face, and would eat no bread."

(James 4:1-2) "From whence come wars and fightings among you? Come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? {2} ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not."

C.    Coveting devastates budgets

D.    But the primary reason that it is wrong to covet is that it obscures the spiritual

(Luke 12:15) "And he said unto them, take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth."

(1 Ti. 6:17) "Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy;"

III.  OUR RESPONSE

A.    Open our eyes

(1 Ti. 6:6) "But godliness with contentment is great gain."

(Phil. 4:12-13) "I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. {13} I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."

(Heb. 13:5) "Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee."

B.     Open your hands

(Matt. 6:19-21) "Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: {20} but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: {21} for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also." (2 Co.r 9:6) "but this I say, he which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully."

C.    Open your heart

1.      If you have never been saved, open your heart to Jesus Christ

a)      Acknowledge our need

b)      Accept God’s provision through Jesus Christ.

c)      Ask God to forgive us

2.      If you are a Christian, open your heart and be content with what God has for us

a)      "Godliness with contentment is great gain." Cf 1 Tim 6:6

b)      Do not believe the lie of the devil, God will not keep any good thing from us

c)      (Psa 84:11) "For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly."

3.      Let’s learn to open our heart to the needs of others

a)      Riches and material wealth are just tools to be used to minister to the needs of others.

b)      Are we only concerned with our needs, our family, etc.?

c)      Time and time again the Lord calls us to look to others and not ourselves

IV. Thoughts

A.    Contentment is the answer to Coveting

B.     Examples of Covetousness

1.      Ahab: led to lying, murder, theft

2.      King David: led to murder, adultery

3.      Rich Young Ruler: led to damnation

C.    Possessions are not evil

1.      They have value in how they are used.  They can be used for good or selfishly

2.      Proof of this is seen in the fact that we have the commandment “Thou shalt not steal”

D.    Coveting and complaining go hand-in-hand

1.      Illustration

When the giraffes got off the ark, they overheard two elephants talking.  One complained, “What a lousy trip, it rained the whole time.”

E.     This is the commandment that may have played a large part in Paul’s salvation (Ro. 7)

1.      It is the one commandment that is internal

2.      Paul mentions this and that this commandment awakened him to his inner sinfulness and need for a savior

From The Ten Commandments  by Dr. Laura Schlessinger, p. 309-311 

David one of my listeners wrote to us about his revelation with respect to this latter issue: “I am 37 years old and happily married with three children. My story starts when my first daughter was born. Both my wife and I were very career oriented and both working I for an aerospace company and my wife teaching for a school district. We were very comfortable with the lifestyle our double-income family afforded us. My wife was intent on returning to work after our baby was born and continue in a career outside the home. I not only found her position acceptable but encouraged it. Our precious little baby came at the end of the school year and my wife spent almost four months of the summer home with our new little Natalie. We worked hard on locating the best possible day care for our daughter. At the end of the summer our days consisted of getting the new baby up at 5:30 A.M. and taking her to day care picking her up at the end of the day and then spending a few brief moments at home with her--feeding her and getting her ready for bed only to wake up the next morning and do it all over again.

 

After about five months of this my wife made a radical milestone change in our lives by deciding to increase her commitment to our child and future children by staying home and being a full-time mother. I was not only surprised by this decision but opposed it. I respected her decision and felt it was her decision to make but I was worried about the impact to our lifestyle with the loss of a second income. You see looking back I not only enjoyed her working but I coveted the money she was making. I knew (hoped?) deep down that after a few months of being home my wife would get bored and then return to work so we could return to the days of spending and selfish living. With my wife's continued resolve to be at home we then made significant changes to our lifestyle by moving into a smaller more affordable home we drove older vehicles and we got rid of the adult toys that a double income had afforded us.

 

I can now say four years later and with tears in my eyes that I am the happiest person/man/father in the world and the proudest husband of a wife who decided to stay at home to be a real mother to her children. I am a convert to the importance of children being able to have their mother home all day with them to love them to hold them to play with them and nurture them. I am a convert to what is really important in life and where all of my time effort and ability need to go to our children.