Untying the Family Noose: Where is Ward Cleaver?
Text: Genesis 18:19
Introduction:
- Abraham will "command his children after him."
- Contrast to Lot who lost his family because he did not teach them
- Illus. thread wrapped individually or several times. How hard is it to break?
- All out assault on the family. The cumulative effect of this attack is to strangle and kill the family. These have a suffocation effect on the life of the family unit.
- This week: A brief overview of the Noose around the family’s neck
- More philosophical, generalized sermon
- Weeks to follow will be more practical and specific
- Strands in the noose
- Redefinition of the family
- "The Nuclear Family Goes Boom!"
Time Magazine, Dec. 1992
- The family as we know it will soon die. It is nothing more than an interesting anomaly—a mere blip in human history. We thought of it as "normal," but we were wrong. The very term "nuclear family" will give off a musty smell in the days ahead.
- Replacing it will be multiple marriages, or what will be known as "serial monogamy." Divorce will be so common as to be considered normal. Some marriage contracts will have "sunset clauses" to automatically terminate at a given age. Couples reaching their 50th anniversaries will be as rare as today’s piano or cello virtuosos—gifted masters of their craft.
- Children will live with a bewildering array of relatives—mothers, fathers, multiple stepmothers and stepfathers, stepbrothers and stepsisters, grandparents and former grandparents, etc.
- The taboo against incest will weaken.
- The trend toward childlessness will accelerate.
- Children will be routinely victimized. They will be bounced from home to home as families splinter and re-form. Many will have no one to care for them. Boys and girls will roam the streets much like they did in Charles Dickens’ London, or as they still do in Brazil today.
- Pediatricians will teach children about the use of condoms at the time of their vaccinations against disease.
- Theology, the study of God and the Bible, will soon die. School children of tomorrow will have no knowledge of spiritual matters, nor even any interest in this topic. (Note: There will be an interest because it is innate. However, if we don’t teach them, then they will not know the basic Judeo-Christian facts and values and will pick up the values of the culture or the New Age spirituality.)
- The triumph of feminist religion will cause many Christians and Jews to shun references to God in personal terms (no more Lord or Heavenly Father). This in turn (will) strengthen the groups that worship a mysterious nature-force which seek to deify the self.
- Forced abortion as practiced in China will be necessary in nations with exploding populations. As Rep. Pat Schroeder suggests, "The most important goal for the 21st century is family planning for everyone."
- An even more radical approach may evolve. It is reasonable to ask whether there will be a family at all. Given the propensity for divorce, the growing number of adults who choose to remain single, the declining popularity of having children and the evaporation of the time families spend together, another way may eventually evolve. It may be quicker and more efficient to dispense with family-based reproduction. Society could then produce its future generations in institutions that might resemble state-sponsored baby hatcheries…"
- Sexual Revolution of the 60s-70s
- Bearing fruit today
- Illegitimacy
- Divorce rate
- Pornography
- Homosexuality
Dear Editor,
In a recent interview, CBS Evening News anchor Dan Rather accused Christians of being homophobes and hate mongers because of their opposition to the homosexual lifestyle. Also, Councilman Al Boris of Wilkes-Barre has been on the hotseat due to some derogatory remarks he made about homosexuals. As a result, the attention in the media has focused on the treatment, or mistreatment, of homosexuals. Yet, there has been little, if any, discussion about the nature of the homosexual lifestyle from a medical or social point of view. And what has been said has been devoid of facts. For example, The Advocate, the nation's largest magazine for homosexuals, quotes Joycelyn Elders, the Surgeon General for the United States, as saying that sex is "a normal part and healthy part of our being, whether it is homosexual or heterosexual." She then goes on to support homosexual adoptions and criticizes the Boy Scouts of America for not allowing gay scout leaders.
Elders, along with those promoting the gay agenda, claim that anti-gay attitudes are founded on an irrational fear of sexuality. They characterize everyone who disagrees with the gay agenda as homophobes, bigots, and hate mongers. They fail to recognize that many of us who reject the gay agenda, do so based on strong medical and historical evidence that homosexuality is detrimental to society as a whole, as well as the individual. We oppose the gay agenda, not because we are homophobes, but because we feel it is injurious to our society.
Consider, for example, the following medical statistics (which, by the way, should be common knowledge for Joycelyn Elders, since she does hold the highest medical position in the United States):
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homosexuals are 41 times more likely to get syphilis1
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homosexuals are 10 time more likely to have Hepatitis B2
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homosexuals are 5 times more likely to have other STD’s3
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15-30% of gays are HIV positive, compared to less than 1% of heterosexuals4
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70-78% of gays report having had a sexually transmitted disease5
Consider, also, the affect that the homosexual lifestyle has on the life span of homosexuals. When obituaries of homosexuals were compared to those of the rest of the population, the results are startling. For non-homosexuals, the median age of death of married men was 75 and 80% of them died old (age 65 or older). For unmarried or divorced men, the median age of death was 57 and 32% died old. Married women averaged 79 at death while 85% died old. Unmarried and divorce women averaged 71 and 60% died old.6
On the other hand, the median age of death for homosexuals was significantly lower. In fact, less than 2% lived to old age. As for the median age of death, if the cause of death was AIDS, the median age was only 39. For those who died of other causes, the median age of death was a paltry 42 and only 9% died old. Lesbians fared a little better, with the median age of death being 45 while 26% died old.7 The evidence is overwhelming that homosexuality poses a grave danger to one’s health. In fact, homosexuality is far more dangerous than cigarette smoking!
Not only should the medical statistics alarm us, but so should the practices of homosexuals. Consider the following behavioral patterns of homosexuals taken from the major surveys on homosexual behavior.
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gays average between 10 and 110 different sexual partners per year, greatly increasing the risk of contracting and passing on STD's8
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gays average 68 rectal encounters per year. Rectal intercourse is probably the most sexually efficient way to spread Hepatitis B & C, HIV, syphilis and other blood-borne diseases.9
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one-third of gays admit to fisting (where the hand is inserted into the rectum). This practice often results in tears of the rectum resulting in the transmission of blood-borne diseases and the possibility of rectal damage resulting in the patient being confined to diapers for life.10
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80% admit to licking/inserting their tongues into the anus of partners, thus ingesting medically significant amounts of feces.11 The result is that the "annual incidence of hepatitis A in . . . homosexual men was 22 per cent, whereas no heterosexual men acquired hepatitis A."12
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25% of white gays admitted to sex with boys 16 or younger.13 In other words, 25% engaged in molestation!
These figures should alarm us. One reason that they haven’t is that they have been hidden from the American people. We have not been told the whole story about the homosexual movement. The homosexual movement has succeeded in painting a much rosier picture of itself than is actually the case. They have made homosexuality a civil rights issue, rather than a medical issue. As a result, our society as a whole is threatened from the rampages of STD's as well as the financial burden of paying for these problems, and we our powerless to say anything because it supposedly violates their civil rights.
Yet, I have a right to protect my kids from a lifestyle that is self-destructive. That is why I do not want that kind of lifestyle legitimized in the media. Just as I don’t want to glamorize cigarette smoking because it is self-destructive behavior, so too, I don’t want to glamorize the homosexual lifestyle. More importantly, I want to protect my kids from the 25% of homosexuals who admit to molestation. The truth is that they cannot reproduce naturally, so they must do it by recruiting. How do they recruit? By taking advantage of underage kids--molestation!
One final word, throughout history, all civilizations and major religions have condemned homosexuality. No society has ever survived that has tolerated its practice. It is self-destructive behavior that weakens society. Joycelyn Elders, if she is so concerned about self-destructive behavior, should quit promoting the gay lifestyle and expose everyone to the medical data. Homosexual behavior is far more destructive than second-hand smoke (or first hand smoke for that matter). Let’s quit hiding the gay lifestyle behind the smoke screen of civil rights and confront the issue with the facts. You don’t have to be a homophobe to oppose the gay lifestyle. You just have to know the facts.
- William Lester in Morality, Anyone? "The community should want to prevent as far as possible her citizens from stooping to acts of homosexuality, bestiality and the like. Such acts give into a depravity that runs counter to the virtues necessary for civilization and eats away at the strength of a nation…By having laws against unnatural sex even though the laws cannot be closely enforced, the community at least inhibits the acts somewhat through fear of getting caught and at the same time prevents the depraved from boldly parading their depravity and thereby encouraging others."
- Dr. Edward Brongersma told the London Observer after a hotel cancelled a convention for pedophiles "I was very disappointed about the ban. I wanted to tell people that it is not wrong if a man wants to have a sexual relationship with a child. It can be a very beautiful thing."
- Tom Reeves in Gay Community News: "love between men and boys is often the most mutually beneficial, the least manipulative, the lest transient and the most liberating."
- Dr. Alayne Yates wrote Sex Without Shame and suggests that sexual problems go back to childhood restraints on sex. "…any kind of early, pleasurable sexual experience tens to augment later sexual adjustment and enthusiasm. And father-daughter incest is frequently pleasurable."
- Premarital sex
- November 1991 Journal of Marriage and Family: "women who were sexually active prior to marriage faced a considerably higher risk of marital disruption than women who were virgin brides." "Catholics and fundamentalists Protestants were less likely to divorce and more likely to approach marriage as virgins.
- Dawson’s Creek
- Melrose Place
- Women’s lib movement
- Abortion
- Cheapening of human life
- Kids realize that they are disposable. Note: can you image the thought process of a teen who has a parent who is pro-abortion? Would my mom have aborted me for convenience sake?
- Hollywood Culture Dominate Mainstream
- Movies, television, video games, internet
- Each year there are over 20,000 acts of implied intercourse on TV
- 1992: This season, every middle adolescent (character) in television lost their virginity."
- None of those characters got STDs, AIDS, etc.
- Government intervention
- Illus. Remember the Alamo. San Antonio 1836 General Antonio Lopez Santa Anna with 4,000 men against the 180 men with Davy Crockett and Jim Bowie
- Leave it to Beaver
is scorned, depicted as undesirable, ridiculed as unattainable. Time we brought back Ward and June and kicked out the Eddie Haskell’s who are making family policy
- Most families are so subnormal that if they became normal we would consider them abnormal.
- Notice Three Elements in Abraham’s Family that made it successful
Family Faith (Gen. 15:6)
Abraham believed God and it was counted to him for righteousness
Salvation is a necessity
All kids are sinners by nature and need salvation
Parental concern to see our kids saved and living for the Lord
Sanctification
This is a part of salvation
Church attendance
Once a week not enough
1-2 hours versus 36 at school, 20 TV
I don’t understand why a parent who wants to teach their kids biblical values won’t make sure that they are at church every time the door is open.
Child learns what is valuable by what you value
Consistent living at home
Abraham’s lie was manifested in Isaac later in life
If you are irregular, your kids will be
If you give the Lord leftover time, talents, etc., so will your kids
Don’t complain, "What happened to my kid. Why did he do this or that" when you are inconsistent and unfaithful.
One thing that keeps me faithful is my kids
Family Order
Abraham was His kids father, not just their buddy
Verses
Text verse 18:19 He will command
Joshua "As for me and my house we will serve the Lord."
The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children.—Edward, Duke of Windsor
Ricardo Montalbon quote:
"Dear Son,
"As long as you live in this house you will follow the rules. When you have your own house, you can make your own rules. In this house we do not have a democracy. I did not campaign to be your father. You did not vote for me. We are father and son by the grace of God, and I accept that privilege and awesome responsibility. In accepting it I have an obligation to perform the role of a father.
"I am not your pal. Our ages are too different. We can share many things, but we are not pals. I am your father. This is 100 times more than what a pal is. I am also your friend, but we are on entirely different levels. You will do, in this house, as I say, and you cannot question me because whatever I ask you to do is motivated by love. This will be hard for you to understand until you have a son of your own. Until then, trust me.
"Your Father"
Watched over Isaac’s marriage. He sent out servant to get a wife for Isaac.
Head over his wife
1 Pet. 3:6
Spiritual leadership in the home
We need Godly men, fathers who will lead their families spiritually.
Where are the men who
Make the Bible the centerpiece of the home?
Who pray with their wives and kids every day?
Make sure their kids are in church?
Who see to it that God is not just an add on in the family but the crux of the family?
Family Altar (Gen. 12:7)
Deut. 6:4-6
Family altar will alter your family
Jews had a system of teaching religious values and heritage
We need to specifically, systematically teach our kids what to believe, how to behave, why we believe, etc.
Conclusion:
- God’s Word and obedience to it can break the stranglehold suffocating the family
- Illus. The father with a pet boa who killed the baby